I just realized my indecisiveness has become a big problem. It’s has become so big that I shall now call it my big ND. ND has developed to a stage where it now consumes me to where I can barely function. For example, when I go shopping for something specific, I have to go by myself. I’m afraid my ND would drive my friends crazy. I think the response “I dunno, I’m indifferent ” aka ND, drives people crazy too, but hey, at least I won’t get a headache trying to make up my mind. Now, I’m faced with the option of moving or not. The new place is lovely, closer to work, to the gym, but pricier. I like where I’m at now, I’m comfortable, I’m not sure why I even want to move (um.. didn’t I just give some reasons? Anyway..) I’m so sick of moving. Gosh, I sound like I’m moving out of the country or something. To move or not to move? There’s obviously a lot of other questions I ask myself but I can’t seem to narrow down my decision. And now I can’t work! Oh dang it. And now I’m starting to think of other things. How long am I going to be here for? This was not my plan. Is this where I want to be? What am I doing to myself? Why did I ever stay? I should have gone home as planned? I feel so unsettled, so behind, so aimless, so lost. I just want a place to call my own, a place to call home. oh boo hoo why am I getting so sentimental? Must be that time of month again…. sniff sniff.. I want my mommy.
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GET A GRIP, GIRL! Don't you just wish there was a shot of "self-confidence" you could take? Believe me, I go through that too (like my New York idea). Just think: if it was ment to be, then it'll be. Besides, since you don't have a strong "good" feeling about it, then you shouldn't do it. But, what the heck do i know?
you havent been in one place long enough to make a logical decision. stay put for a while. you just got there.
Let's have some firm facts to base this decision on! Go on, spill it. How much closer? How much more in rent? How much gas would each trip save? How much time would it save?
Do that little pros / cons list that everyone suggests. Start with the firm figures / facts, and then go into the fringe benefits (like not having to fork out money for your own TV / DVD player).
Moving is never as big a deal as people think it is; it's a mental obstruction, rather than a physical one.
this post reminds me of your favourite evite response. "I'm a definite maybe".
Are you kidding? When was the last time you moved Ben? It is pure freakin hell!! Movers not showing up, things getting lost and broken, unpacking, finding shit, address change, utilities and cable bla bla bla.
Moving can also become emotional too. You may get attached to a location or if you move alot you constantly feel homeless, floating, somewhat insecure. Starting from age 2 I've moved a total of 14 times. First immigrated from Taiwan, then lived in 7 different houses, then moved 6 times since I was here. Hey, is there anyone out there with a higher number?
I've moved 12 times in my life. You still have me beat. Where are you moving?
Ok...there are a few things you haven't thought of. First, when you originally moved you knew it was temporary...it was a place to stay in the mean time as you look for something else. Second, do you really want to stay at a place where it's your good friends bf's place. You said yourself, it's not home. I don't know, to me, I can't call any place home when I have to stay over at a friends for the weekend when guests come over (I know you pay little rent but still you pay rent). It's just not the best place to live right now for you. I'm not saying to take this other place either...but you really need to think things through and find a place that you can call your own. Of course all the questions you asked has to be answered by you. Only you know where you really should be...and the questions that Ben asked should play a lot into it too. Van makes a good point about moving being a hassle, but you really shouldn't base your decision on what a hassle it'll be to move again. If you made all your decisions like that, you would probably stay in the same place for the rest of your life. The hassle should play a factor into the decision but seriously, it should not be the main factor, it should really be a small factor and everything else should be before that. So, I think you should move, but I think you should way all your choices and not only look at this one place. Answer all the questions raised first and then decide.
Does life got you down do you need help? If so dial 1-888-mommmmy. Here we can help you with all your problems. If its being indecisive or you plain don't know what to do, we can help. As for all of you cats out there who know what you like. We can help you figure out what you don't like. As a free sample of our work. Just remember home is where the heart is and life is like a box of chocolates you do know what your going to get, especially if you bought the damn box.
hey, that 1888 number doesn't work,it gives me some weird message. I like the new location very much. If I'm going to move, that would be the most ideal place. I don't want to drag my decision making process to the point that I lose the opportunity, though, a part of me hopes that the opportunity gets taken so I won't have to decide. I have thought of all those questions before and am still thinking them through. Making detailed calculations, 20mi vs 8mi to work, 25min vs 10min, $250 more plus need a bed vs nice big room w/own bathroom.
oh btw THOUGHTS, you know i'd use any excuse just to sleep over at your place =)
[drool] Heh heh ... the thought of two girls sharing a bed ... [drool]
Anyway, Van, I suppose I don't think moving is a hassle because I don't really own that much material stuff. This is, of course, contrary to your lovely as-bought-from-TV partner's must-buy-something-online-every-week behaviour. =) I mean, I barely even own this bed!
Thoughts, you probably have a lot more insight into her current living situation than any of us, so you've brought up a lot of great points. Those are all those implicit benefits/costs of one place over another.
HD, the best thing for indecisive people (like you and I) is to "dumb it down" to a logical decision. There's a technique called the decision tree, which puts weights and numbers to all the factors you can think of (even the ones that are more emotional). At the end of it (with all of your input), you get a number, and the number tells you overall what to do. (Of course, the times when I use it are when I REALLY can't decide, and after all the numbers are in, the figure is still close to 50/50 on it, so it doesn't always help.)
I think you should buy a bigger car, and live in it.
Ok...so here's the accountant in me talking. So you'll save 15 min each way which adds up to be 7200 min in a year (based on a 48 week cause of vacation). I'm being generous on the vacation unlike your boss. So you would pay $3,000/year extra in rent plus bed. So that is like $.42/min for your time. And this doesn't include your gas, mileage on car and any other expenses that you may incur. If this would be your ideal place, then isn't your time worth way more than $.42/min?
oh crap, I thought of that! which leads to another question. I need to save up to fly home (taiwan) flight and expenses would add up to $2000. If I stay I'll have that money. I'm starting to feel a headache, how are you guys doing?
Money, saving, bills...that's the story of our life babe! Get used to it...it's here to stay...it's all part of growing up. Why don't you ask mommy or daddy to buy you a plane ticket home?
because i'm a big girl and all I'm going to ask from mommy and daddy is their love.
But if you don't ask them...how you going to afford to go on a cruise with me? J/K. Yeah I know what you mean..so maybe you need to stay where you're at then.
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